Wednesday, December 31, 2014
Baby New Year
Tuesday, December 30, 2014
The "Meh, You'll Do" Boaaaaat, Soon We'll Be Making Another "Meh" Ruuuuuun
I'm a big believer in the whole you can't love someone else until you love and are happy with yourself thing. It should be common sense, right? If you can't accept yourself and all of your flaws then how can you expect someone else to do it? I used to dwell on my flaws and on the reasons why I shouldn't be in something good and thus I wandered for years and sabotaged my own happiness. In the grand scheme of things, I believe this was something that needed to happen for me to realize I needed to change and then have faith that everything else would fall into place. I loathe most change, but when it's necessary, I stick with it. And so far, it's brought wonderful things into my life. I love my work, I love my inner circle and know they love me, and I've had awesome opportunities that I either would've missed out on or denied myself if I were still in that dark ages hole I dug. I'm a lucky dude. And a happy one. Happiness is like gold and you hold onto it when you find it. I used to think my flaws defined me, but now I see everyone's flaws as just small imperfections in otherwise beautiful masterpieces. I used to nitpick the women I dated until I found a flaw I convinced myself I couldn't live with, but now it's like I find those flaws almost endearing. Life would be so boring if we were all 100% happy with ourselves and all saw ourselves as total catches (because, let's face it, some of us definitely are not). Quirks and flaws are what keep friendships and relationships and great romances interesting and alive. I hope at least some of those people on this Last Chance dating site realize that and demand better for themselves.
Thursday, December 25, 2014
12 Inches To A Yard
Me: Yep. They said it would be one inch. It's 12 inches.
Friend: It's 12 inches, huh? lol
Me: LOL. The snow!!
Friend: Uh huh. Personally, I love when things are bigger than advertised, but maybe that's just me lol.
Me: lol Again, THE SNOW!
Friend: Yeah, yeah lol.
Wednesday, December 24, 2014
I Gets It From My Mama
Saturday, December 20, 2014
Dreams, Dreams Of When We Had First Started Things
I find that when I reconnect with an ex who I either didn't treat very well or blindsided with my decision to walk away, there's a point where it becomes open season on asking every question either side had about why it ended up the way it did. And this is usually tremendously helpful on a lot of levels. K and I shot the breeze and talked about the relationship she'd ended earlier this year and she said something about how all of the magic and wonder had gone out of it. The fights had built up and taken their toll on both of them, so much so that when she floated the idea of calling it quits, he put up absolutely no defense. She remembered how great things had been between them in the beginning, how she'd considered spending her life with the dude. And then it all just stopped and they were strangers and it was over. This all sounded so familiar to me. I told her I was involved with someone who did the same thing she used to, go MIA when it suited her and make no effort to change. I asked why she did that and confirmed that she was with other guys during those times. I told her I didn't think BP was ever with someone else, but the behavior was maddening all the same. I mentioned that we also had some nasty arguments and that she never was interested in getting them squared away and getting to a decent place. Taking all of this in, K said, "Well...maybe she just wasn't into you anymore. It was familiar and that's why you both hung on.". And it's like a light bulb went on in my head. I remember towards the end of our association, I asked BP what she even got out of keeping me on the line but refusing to actually deal with shit and her answer told me all I needed to know, "Bc I'm curious". She tried to say she was curious about "what we could be", but I don't think that's what she meant. She enjoyed screwing with my head because up until that point, she'd been on the receiving end of that shit from her mother and brother. It was a chance to turn the tables and take back her power in some weird, dysfunctional way. I tell ya, the more time that goes by, the more I realize how lucky I was to get out of that shit when I did.
Thursday, December 18, 2014
Til ________ Do Us Part
As the months rolled by, friends and family began to notice that one of them showing up to an event without the other was becoming a common occurrence. At first, none of us connected the dots because we're rarely all in the same place at once and these absences were little more than a, "No, he/she wasn't there" sidenote in passing. But DMC's new wife pointed out that a lot of the changes the female friend has been making are the kind you'd expect of someone just out of a relationship. Worried, I bit the bullet last month and asked if everything was okay. And the response was not at all what we'd expected. Everyone assumed her decision to go back to school was spurred by the loss of her job. Instead, we were informed that they'd been trying to have a baby for the last two years only to find out that it's highly unlikely it will ever happen. That's why she's opted to make so many changes lately. And everything since June makes a ton of sense now that the last piece of the puzzle has been inserted. And I feel awful. It sucks when people who don't want kids can have a mess of them, while those who do and would be amazing parents can't even have one. I know how badly she wanted that. Apparently, they were in the process of discussing adoption when she began making all kinds of changes without consulting him (moving, college, etc).
When this friend divulged all of this last month, he was just beginning to worry about the state of the marriage but decided to go with a "wait and see" approach about it all. He said he believed she was just grieving over all that had happened but would rebound and they would get back on an adoption track. What a difference a month makes. She was sick over Thanksgiving, so she stayed behind while he flew home for the holiday and he seemed encouraged by how upset she was over missing being with the family (you grasp at straws when things are that dire, ya'll). The plan was for them to spend Christmas with his family, but when he arrived home last week he was sans wife and wedding band. The ring could be nothing, they were both eternally forgetful of them for years, but her evasiveness when asked about her holiday plans is starting to worry me. All either of them will say about anything is, "It's fine", and according to DMC he genuinely seems fine, not depressed or sad or any of that. There's a rather large family event coming up this weekend, so if she doesn't attend that, it's probably time to really worry. I hope they can work it out because they're both wonderful people.
My sister and I talked about the situation this morning and concluded relationships are hard. That's not news obviously, but our experiences are quite different since I'm a manwhore (or what we call Manwhore Lite, these days) and she's been happily committed to someone for 16 years now. She says to me, she says, "Look, relationships are hard under the best of circumstances, I can't imagine them at the worst...". And I was like, dude...your husband's brother had heart surgery a year into your relationship, then ya'll were teen parents, then your best friend died and your twin almost died, then your son was born prematurely and deaf in one ear and then you adopted another son who is also deaf. Methinks ya'll have seen the best of times and the worst of times. And our exchange got me thinking even deeper about a story from my London travels. I went on a long-delayed blind date while I was there and the chick turned out to be two years out of a divorce. They'd met young, dated for five years and then married when she was in her late 20's (he was older by about five years). Less than five years into the marriage, the whole thing was over. He fell into a depression over some things and was unwilling to try and pull himself out of it, or let her help him in any way. They tried counseling but he was uninterested when he bothered to show up, which was only once or twice. For a year, she tried to get ish back on track and be there for him and love him out of the hole he was in but it just didn't work. The disconnect led to the revelation that they'd been having problems even before his depression and they just weren't in love anymore. They divorced and months later he realized what he'd lost and tried to get her back, but she'd moved on emotionally. I'm worried these two friends of mine are heading towards a similar fate. But I really hope that's not the case...
Tuesday, December 16, 2014
Break Your Neck This Christmas Season, Fa La La La La, La La La La
Cousin: You've said that the last three years...
Aunt: Well, he hasn't fallen yet. And the waiting is exhausting.
Cousin: LMAO. Uh...rooting for you, ma. This year is the year!
Aunt: lol I hope so. 2014's jackass with a broken neck is 2015's gory Halloween decoration.
Saturday, December 13, 2014
Key Party
Me: I don't own an ugly sweater.
Friend: You can make one.
Me: I don't wanna make an ugly sweater.
Friend: Fine, then just wear a sweater so you don't look like a total nerd.
Me: I don't own a sweater.
Friend: Okay smartass,..then why don't you just show up in Magic Mike chaps and an open leather vest and show off your assets.
Me: I'll buy a sweater.
Friend: LOL. Well, there goes the holiday cheer I promised all the ladies at the party.
Me: lol I knew it. I wasn't a guest, I was the entertainment.
Friend: lol Can't blame a girl for trying. Do you really not own a sweater?
Me: No ma'am. I don't like long sleeves in general but sweaters are too constricting.
Friend: Huh. So if I let you wear short sleeves to the party...where do you stand on a Speedo?
Me: LOL. I'll buy a sweater AND pants.
Friend: lol Damn. Okay, what about sex with strangers?
Me: ...Are you trying to hire me as a prostitute for your party?
Friend: No. I mean, not if that offends you.
Me: LMAO. I might not wanna go now...
Friend: LOL. Oh, it'll be fine. Just ignore the jar of condoms on the table and make sure to throw your keys in the bowl.
Me: LOL. Well, I don't wanna be an ungracious guest so I will comply.
Wednesday, December 10, 2014
White Lines
Me: *points and laughs*
Y: Shut up! You're coming along for the ride as Man of Honor. You're basically my bitch.
Me: lol And that differs from the first 33 years of our friendship...how?
Y: lol Good point. And now his family wants all this random stuff.
Me: Like what?
Y: Like white people stuff. OMG! There are going to be embarrassing white people dancing at my wedding!! Ugh. I hate white people.
Me: LOL. First off, I've never heard anyone use the phrase "white people" so much in one text. Second, you're half white and your fiance is Swedish...it don't get much whiter than that. So consider this yo letta of acceptance.
Y: LMAO. I don't take orders from "The Man", sir!
Me: lol If I were "The Man", life would be a whole lot more fun to live for those in my jurisdiction.
Y: Oh yeah, I can see it now. Casual Thursdays and naked Fridays, but only women and not guys.
Me: Correction: Naked Fridays, but only for brunette women and not for white guys. I gotchu, baby!
Y: LOL. You so good to me, sweet cheeks.
Me: And when you anger me, ONLY white guys naked on Fridays.
Y: You suck. You can't come to the wedding.
Me: I don't wanna come to your wedding anyway. There's gonna be a bunch of awkward white folks doing the Electric Slide or some ish.
Y: LMAO. Bitch.
Me: IT'S ELECTRIC!
Wednesday, December 3, 2014
Color Blind
Danny is the whitest of white boys from middle of nowhere Pennsylvania. He is the youngest of seven children, all of whom are annoying as hell. Danny pings the Gaydar of a lot of my fellow viewers. He likes tight clothing and he has a questionable haircut and he doesn't seem comfortable in much of any situation. While on a trip to Australia, Danny met Amy, who is originally from South Africa. They struck up a friendship that eventually turned into a romantic relationship and led them to obtain a fiance visa. Amy is beautiful, sweet and overall just too good for Danny and his annoying family. When he picks her up at the airport, in the dead of night, they barely speak or interact at all as she's driven to his brother's farm, 40 minutes from civilization. Danny and Amy have decided to abstain from anything more than quick pecks, so she's going to live in his brother's attic until they get married. Not being able to live under the same roof with your fiance that you're not having sex with seems to be a recurring theme on this show and it's the oddest ish. I don't know what kind of reasoning is behind thinking someone is better off in a house of strangers than in a room down the hall, but I digress. Danny leaves Amy that night without any clear indication of when they're going to see each other again, and because of the late hour, she doesn't even meet his brother and sister-in-law until the next morning when the brother bangs on her door and enters without permission. He then proceeds to say to her face, "Wow, you really are tan! Say something in African". Amy handles his idiocy with more grace than most, but you can see the shock and annoyance on her face. Danny's brother also seems to think it's funny to invade the one date night they have, squeezing in between them on the couch solely to remind them they can't have sex. Just days after her arrival, and having spent next to no time with her fiance, Amy is whisked off to a dinner with all of Danny's siblings and their significant others. Yet again, his family leads with ignorance, assuming she must be from some mud hut village in South Africa and asking her to, "Speak African". Not surprisingly, Danny does not say anything to put a stop to any of this and Amy is left out on her own to deal with it all. Oh, and there's one more thing - Danny's dad is a racist. He doesn't call him that though, of course. Instead, he tells Amy his dad "lives in Texas so he doesn't have a lot of experience with interracial marriage", and he isn't a fan of the practice. Danny reassures Amy that no matter what his dad thinks of them, he is still going to marry her and just days before the wedding, they set off to Texas to meet the parents.
Danny's dad just looks like one of those Republican mofos who would be bitching about keeping his guns and calling Obama's birthplace into question. He's an older man in a plaid shirt with glasses and an instantly sour disposition upon seeing his son and future daughter-in-law walk in. Danny's mom gives Amy a hug and welcomes her to the family and is as gracious as one should be. But then they sit down to meet dad (who never gets up from his chair, not even to greet Amy) and he asks where Amy is from and she tells them a bit about South Africa, emphasizing how beautiful it is (especially compared to bumfuck Pennsylvania), to which his dad says, "That's not somewhere that, uh...we'd ever want to visit" (his loss, South Africa is gorgeous). Dad quickly turns his attention to asking if they were fully prepared for an interracial marriage and proceeds to tell Amy that it's "not something that's accepted" in the U.S. Amy has previously said she's not sure of U.S. customs and what's acceptable, having come from a country where apartheid was the norm and Danny's dad exploits that uncertainty for all its worth. Displeased that Amy's relatives (most of them Black) are flying in for the wedding, he emphasizes to them both that it isn't too late to call the whole thing off. after some awkward silence, Danny and Amy hit the road and head back to Pennsylvania, still with the intent to marry in a few days.
Oh, where to begin. The obvious statement is that Danny's dad is an ignorant prick who couldn't have been ruder to Amy. This girl is in love with your son and has given up the only life she's ever known to be with him. She's in a new country and with no friends or support system other than her new family (unfortunately). Second, it was awful to mislead her by telling her we don't accept interracial marriage, the same way it was wrong for Danny to try and explain away his father's racism by saying he lives in Texas. A real man would've gone in there and said, "Look, I fell in love with this amazing girl from South Africa, yes she's Black and color doesn't matter to either of us and we're gonna get married, end of discussion.". But Danny made a million excuses for his dumbass family, as if they live in the fucking Ozarks or some shit and don't know it's not the 1960's anymore. "Are you ready for the challenges of an interracial marriage?" was a question the couple were asked. Having dated every color and nationality under the sun, having a daughter who is bi-racial and being a product of an interracial marriage that persevered long before it was even kind of acceptable, I can tell you that there are indeed challenges to marrying someone of a different color. But not the kind that his father tried to pass off, like they would be pointed and laughed at and possibly worse just for being in a damn Target together. Sadly, there are still a lot of people who view things as Danny's father, but most of us don't see color. I can't imagine what it was like for my grandparents back in the 50's when race was a huge thing and the civil rights movement was years away. And I hope things are much different when Miss N finds her lobster. Good luck to Amy and her new in-laws...
Wednesday, November 26, 2014
Monday, November 24, 2014
Ch-Ch-Ch-Chia!
Me: Because you wanted to see the final product at the end of Movember.
G: You shaved this month so it doesn't count.
Me: No, I didn't.
G: Wait...you didn't shave for a month and THAT'S the final result?
Me: Yes...shut up.
G: LOL. You look like you haven't shaved in a week, not a month. What, did it just refuse to grow after the first week?
Me: lol Fuck you. I told you I'd never be able to grow a long ass beard.
G: Tip: When you forget to water your Chia pet, it stops growing. And then looks like that.
Me: LOL. I hate you. I'm going to shave so I look presentable for the holiday.
G: That shouldn't take long. Better that then the turkey laughing at your high school facial hair.
Me: lol Hey, my facial hair was much more questionable in high school. You've seen those pictures.
G: lol Good point.
Monday, November 17, 2014
I Don't Know Peter, Meth Is A Helluva Drug
Me: It's Asian?
Her: lol No, I mean it's really good.
Me: lol I know what you meant dude.
Me: Grandpa Guiseppe is down with the lingo
Me: Hip to the game
Me: Feeling up your jive turkey
Her: LOL. FEEL MY TURKEY UP SO GOOD! STUUUUUFF IIIIIIIT!!!!
Me: LOL. Hey gurl, it must be Thanksgiving cuz I'm sooooooo ready for yo cranberries and jellay.
Me: Hey gurl, is your name Visa? Cuz you're everywhere I want to be.
Her: LOL Hey boy, you must be American Express cuz you're everywhere I want to be.
Me: I thought that was Visa's slogan?
Her: Fuck if I know.
Me: LOL. Um, if you tear yourself away from your Asian cake orgy, maybe you'd see my visa line was a play on their slogan
Her: LOL. DAMMITTT.
Saturday, November 15, 2014
Life Flies By In Seconds
All of this got me thinking about a lot of things. First, the window between our kids being in diapers and us being back in diapers is awful small. One minute they're little helpless dictators who demand every moment of your time, and the next minute they're self-sufficient, aloof know-it-alls who incessantly text their friends about how embarrassing you are. And that's why parenthood kinda sucks in a way - you get so used to being there and tending to their every need in the first years and then they start to grow up and become independent and you're still standing there like, "Hey...so I'm still here...you sure you don't need anything?". It ain't fair, yo. Second, you are an absolute idiot if you don't take full advantage of those years where they think you're all kindsa awesome. I mean, last month Miss N wanted eggnog ice cream but it hadn't been released yet, so I mixed vanilla ice cream with eggnog and nutmeg and it blew her mind, man. In ten years, she won't remember that, much less think I'm something special for having done it, but it was an awesome father-daughter moment. How many of those little moments has that dude missed because he was staring at his phone or doing some other less important ish? And how is she gonna feel about all that as she gets older? It's such a small thing but the difference between ignoring your kid during your time together or actually engaging with them could be huge. I really felt for that little girl and, in a different way, her father.
The last thing I thought about relating to all this is how I'm thankful my father was an absent one. That sounds harsh, maybe even weird, but stick with me here. I didn't know of, or meet my father until I was about 7. Mom took us to lunch with him and it was awkward. He promised to keep in touch and build relationships with each of us, but that lasted all of about three phone calls. We never heard from him again, never saw him again and he died five years ago and was mourned by his widow, the children he did have relationships with and their children. A few years after he lost touch, my brother tried to call him and invite him to his Little League Championship baseball game, but no one ever answered the phone. This dude never came to any of our games, school events, and wasn't there through a single milestone in any of our lives. And I think we're better for that. Why? Because if he had, we may very well have ended up with that kind of father who gets your hopes up but then lets you down every time. We may have ended up chasing a relationship with a father who really wasn't all that interested in knowing us. And that's far more damaging than just never knowing the dude. His reasons for that are his own, and we'll never know what they were since he's dead now, but in a way I'm thankful that we never knew him. I look at it as his loss, not ours, because my siblings are amazing human beings and he missed out on that.
If anything, today made me more appreciative of the time I have with Miss N. I've always gone back and forth about fatherhood (before her, obviously) because this is such a cruel world sometimes, but now it's like I can't imagine life without her. And I don't know how anyone, mother or father, can feel anything less than unconditional love for their child. Parenthood is no cakewalk, it's ridiculously demanding and it requires you to let go of your own selfish tendencies and any narcissism you may have had. But it's a fantastic experience. Even with the bad stuff like not sleeping, never eating without having to share, and having your face glued to the school window because you don't know what to do with yourself when there isn't a child attached to your side. I love being a father. And I know I've screwed up before and I will no doubt do so again throughout her life, but I'm still gonna try and be as good of a dad as I can be to Miss N. That's the commitment I made when she came into my life, and it's the most important commitment anyone can make. I hope that little girl I saw today has someone in her life who feels the same way about her.
Sunday, November 9, 2014
Who Ate All Da Kookies?
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Me: Damn, look at that chick's makeup...it's....a lot.
Her: She looks like like a cross between Snookie and Cookie Monster. She's Snookie Monster. Can you imagine Cookie Monster with a Snookie accent? 'Oh my gawd Elmoww, you ate all da kookies."
Thursday, November 6, 2014
Mancrush Thursday
A friend of mine expressed how happy she is that MOC and I have found our happy place as a family. There were some major touch and go moments there for way too long, but now we have this great friendship and are able to be happy for each other. Yeah, the road was rough but now I know I'm pretty lucky to have landed in the situation I'm in. It's a non-traditional family that will hopefully grow as I find someone to share my life with and maybe have more kids (and lemme tell you, nothing sends you back and forth about having more kids than when the one you already have starts to get mouthy). It's really something to look up from all the bitterness and fighting and realize, "Hey...I like you and we could be great friends". Whilst we wait on the meet up report, here is a fantastic conversation between MOC and I.
Me: Don't take this the wrong way...but how the hell did you land him, dude?
MOC: I know, right?! I wish I had a school reunion coming up, I'd ride him into that room like a parade float.
Me: LOL. May I suggest a, "Suck it bitches!" banner on the front of the float?
MOC: LMAO. God, yes. That one bitch who teased me for being a mutt...ooooooh, I would love to show her what this mutt ended up with.
Me: Macy's Parade, here we come!
MOC: Hell, next reunion I have, I'm bringing you, Miss N and Gio. "Look who I've done since high school while you were sleeping with your boring white bread high school sweetheart.". I might work details of the sex into the convo too, so be ready lol.
Me: LOL. Um...I think I'm busy that night, soooo...
MOC: lol Oh, no you don't. You will go to this reunion (which will probably be like my fiftieth at this point, so keep your looks) and you will brag about me!
Me: NEVER!!!!
MOC: I'll let you stare at Gio while you talk me up...
Me: Well...maybe.
MOC: LOL. And absolutely no shame about your mancrush, either.
Me: No ma'am lol.
Tuesday, November 4, 2014
The Wisdom Of The Ages
Crazy Aunt: I have to make an ornament for the baby.
Me: Ok. Thanks for sharing.
Crazy Aunt: So what does he like?
Me: lol What?
Crazy Aunt: I have to put pictures and things on it, so what does he like?
Me: Well, he's about eight hours old and he's had nurses fawning all over him most of that time, so I've yet to pick his brain on whether he prefers pina coladas or getting caught in the rain.
Crazy Aunt: Don't be such a smartass. I just don't know what to put on his ornament.
Me: How about, "Baby's First Christmas"?
Crazy Aunt: Oooooh, you're really good!
Me: Yes. I just invented that phrase right now. Oooooh, aaaaaaah.
Crazy Aunt: Oh hush! Don't sing that Pina Colada Song to that baby. It's not for kids.
Me: You went on an extended rant about vaginas in front of Miss N just weeks ago!
Crazy Aunt: That's different. She's almost a woman now.
Me: She's 6!
Crazy Aunt: I meant in dog years.
Me: LOL. You know, it's a shame you didn't have more kids you could impart your glorious wisdom on.
Crazy Aunt: lol You'll carry on my legacy, I'm sure.
Monday, November 3, 2014
Health Nut
Me: Thank you.
G: So, you agree?
Me: What?
G: That you're really pretty.
Me: Um...I guess so.
G: lol Ah, "Mean Girls" in the morning. Thank you for playing along.
Me: lol Anytime.
G: I read an article this morning that said having multiple sexual partners can dramatically reduce the risk of prostate cancer. So there's one disease we know won't take you out down the line.
Me: LOL. It's nice to cross that off the list. Now I can say I did them all for my health.
G: LOL. Just what women like to hear. Although, I'm not sure it meant multiple partners all in one session...
Me: ...Meh, I'm still good I think.
Friday, October 31, 2014
Dirty Tricks
G: Giuseppe, I told you someone with back problems shouldn't try and do the whole Kama Sutra in one night.
Me: lol Hey! Tonight is the night for Kama Sutra. Have some respect for the holiday!
Y: Don't whine to me about your back issues. I had an allergic reaction to something and now I'm extremely Itchy-itchy-yaya-dada.
Me: LMAO! Wow, that seems like an insane amount of itchy you got going on there.
G: LOL. That was perfect.
Y: LMAO. Please don't ask why that's in my phone.
G: So what are ya'll going as for this 90's themed shindig I'm jealous of?
Me: Well, Grandpa Simpson...
G: lol Fucker.
Me: I'll go as Missy Elliot and Y can go as Lil Kim.
Y: LOL. But you're sluttier than me!
Me: lol But you already know your lines.
G: LOL. #DropDatMic
Me: Actually, I'm thinking about spending the day as a mature, functional adult (beginning now lol).
G: lol That should be fun.
Me: Yes. I look forward to people thinking I've finally gotten my life together, only to realize tomorrow that it was just a costume.
G: lol You sick bastard.
Me: lol Tis the season.
G: LOL. I see going as a functional and mature adult quickly lost its novelty...
Me: LOL. Maturity and functionality are for losers.
G: lol You couldn't go one hour.
Me: lol I know. More proof that kids ruin everything.
Thursday, October 30, 2014
Beauty I've Always Missed With These Eyes Before
Tuesday, October 28, 2014
90 Day Fiance
This season there are six couples; four American men and two American women, and the fiance(e)'s come from Colombia, Brazil, South Africa, Tunisia, Nicaragua and the Philippines. Two episodes in, we have met all but one of the couples and every one of them makes you wanna say, "No...just no". Allow me to introduce themselves:
Brett & Daya
Brett is a divorced dad who's daughter spends the majority of her time with her mother in the Midwest. Brett, an awkward kinda dude, shares a house in Washington state with a couple of lesbians in their 50's and his best friend is a woman in her 60's who does not agree with his decision to marry Daya. Brett is the first person on either season of the the show to openly admit that he sought out a mail order bride, though claims he did it because women from the Philippines have "great marriage values". And Daya fits the mail order bride description to a T. She's incredibly high maintenance and materialistic, first getting miffed that Brett got her an arrangement of flowers instead of roses, then flat out accusing him of getting her a fake diamond for her engagement ring, an accusation she proudly repeats to his mother (who is younger than both his roommates and his BFF). Daya wants to get the ring "checked" and, if it's proven not to be real, she wants a new, bigger diamond ring. Brett's mother is already telling him to jump ship, and he was visibly upset when she accused him of giving her a fake diamond, but he claims to be in love with her and looking forward to her being an "insta-mom" to his daughter.
Danny & Amy
Amy is moving from South Africa to be with Danny in Pennsylvania. Both in their early twenties, they've agree to abstain from all physical activity except for quick kisses. Amy arrives in the U.S. in the evening hours and is whisked away to the middle of nowhere where she'll be staying with friends of Danny's (that she doesn't know) for the next 90 days. They literally spend 45 minutes together on the ride from the airport, then he shows her her room, tells her goodnight and leaves. She asks when she'll next see him and he says the next day after work, to which she replies, "But...what am I gonna do all day?". He says she can catch up on sleep and then tells the camera in a confessional that he thinks she has very different expectations about how often they will get to spend time together. Oh, and Danny's dad is against interracial marriage so we'll see how that works out.
Justin & Evelyn
I'm just gonna say it - Evelyn is too good for Justin. She was a dance teacher in Colombia when gym teacher Justin struck up a conversation with her at a rugby match whilst on vacation. He's since taken a handful of trips back to see her, eventually proposing marriage. According to Justin's best friend (who finds out about Evelyn for the first time just before she arrives), he is a confirmed bachelor who never wanted to settle down so hearing that the dude is not only dating someone but engaged takes him back a bit. Evelyn arrives to balloons, a limo, flowers and banners strewn about Justin's bachelor pad and she can't stop smiling about it all. But, cuz you know there has to be a but here, reality sets in the next morning when she wakes up to a sink full of dirty dishes. She asks Justin what's up with that and he says he doesn't really like housework and he can't do the dishes at that moment because a game is on and he then proceeds to ask her to do them. She begrudgingly puts everything in the dishwasher while telling the camera is bachelor lifestyle isn't going to fly anymore and that she didn't come here to be a maid. But really, that's what Justin wants is a live-in maid who will have sex with him. He further proves this point by revealing no one in his life knows about Evelyn and he's in absolutely no rush to tell them. Of course, Evelyn wants to meet his family and get to know the in-laws during the next 90 days. But Justin, who says he's incredibly susceptible to the opinions of others, doesn't see it as a big deal that she's his little secret.
Danielle & Mohamed
Here, we reach the first of two couples that have an American woman bringing over a foreign guy. And both women are a hot, hot mess. But Danielle is by far the worse of the two. Danielle has four kids; a 21-year-old son who is out of the house and three teenage daughters who still live with her. Danielle met Mohamed in what she calls an "international chat room" (I didn't even know chat rooms were still a thing, but okay), where later proposed to her. She worked all kindsa overtime to get a ticket to see him in Tunisia before ultimately accepting his proposal and agreeing to bring him over to the U.S. Danielle is 41, a larger lady with thick glasses and Mohamed is 26 and reasonably attractive...and Danielle herself sees the issue here. In fact, she's so aware of the differences that you can tell it's in the very front of her mind all the time. Mohamed has to take two flights to reach her, one from Tunisia and another from NYC to Ohio, but he doesn't phone her in between making his connections and she has a meltdown. MELT. DOWN. We're talking full on crying and blabbering about, "what if he didn't get on the plane, what if he got here and just left because all he needed was a way to get to America". Her teenage daughters have to talk her down before they go to the airport to see if he made it to Ohio. After an hour-long search of the airport, Danielle finds Mohamed and they hug but don't kiss and Mohamed shows no semblance of any emotion towards her. Upon arriving home, Mohamed puts the kibosh on sex by saying his religion forbids sex before marriage and then goes on to tell the camera that physically Danielle is "acceptable" for him. Such a sweet talker, that Mohamed. Danielle's son later confronts Mohamed and expresses his concern that the guy is scamming his mother and Mohamed combats the accusation by saying he gave up his own job and family to be with Danielle. Mohamed never says he loves her or can't wait to marry her or that he's at all excited about anything. Danielle comes off a teenager dealing with hormones for the first time in her life, regularly breaking down in tears over something. I don't know if that's because she knows what everyone's thinking when they see the two of them together, or because her gut is telling her that what everyone's thinking is probably true.
Chelsea & Yamir
I don't like Chelsea. At all. She's selfish as they come and whines about how hard it is for her, an American from the Illinois suburbs, to move her Nicaraguan boyfriend to the States. Yamir (I love his name) is one-third of the biggest, and only, boyband in Nicaragua, Myla Vox. Twentysomething Chelsea was in the country to do charity work when she attended a Myla Vox concert and locked eyes with 28-year-old Yamir. Just months later as she prepares to depart for home, "they" (read: Chelsea) decided he should come with her on a fiancee visa. Needless to say, Yamir's manager/father figure Gabriel was less than thrilled about the news, partially because Myla Vox are in the middle of launching a new album. He wrote Chelsea a long letter about how he feels about her and the move, though I'm not sure why as he has no trouble saying things to her face. He broke it down for both of them by asking what exactly was going to happen when they got back to Illinois, considering Chelsea has no paying job to speak of and Yamir barely speaks English. Singing is all he's ever known and it's not like he can do that in the middle of nowhere, Illinois. Chelsea has no good answer but has mini-crises of conscience where she thinks she might be selfish in moving him, but then immediately contradicts herself by saying "when you love someone, you follow them to the ends of the earth," and, "it's really hard being the one to move him away from his family and group". Yes, Chelsea, I'm sure all of this is tough for YOU. It seems as though they never considered doing something long-distance or for her to extend her stay in Nicaragua, as if the only option to remain a couple was to move and get married immediately. Myla Vox's future is uncertain without Yamir, so his decision to leave has ramifications that extend far beyond himself. I mean, it's not like she's forcing him to go, he did choose to say 'yes'. Gabriel hammers home how uncertain things are at a band press conference where he announces Yamir's engagement and makes Chelsea stand up and take a bow so everyone knows just who he believes shares the majority of the blame for what might be a Myla Vox split.
Separately, any of these stories would be a trainwreck but woven together, they're even more ridiculous. And I'm quite curious to see how it all plays out (and I am not ashamed to say as much).
Monday, October 27, 2014
Rat Bastards And Broads
One of the neater parts of the game is the music. There's the typical noir type music you'd expect to hear, but when you're in a car driving to your next destination you can hear radio shows and commercials and music from the 1940's. And what you hear depends on which care you're in (as an LAPD officer, you can commandeer any car you want). Sometimes I pay close attention to the radio and other times I'm more focused on what I have to do next in a case, but I couldn't help but listen closely when my ear caught the lyric, "Last night I went out drinking, came home and gave her a beating". All of a sudden, I turned into a Minion, "Whaaaaaat?". Then, I pulled the car over and listened to the rest of the song and caught another line, "His family, they're swearing to kill me, and if I killed him, he had it coming". It. Was. Hilarious. So much so that I resolved to find the full song and lyrics. And I was in luck because the awesome developers of the game included all of the credits for the music in the game's manual. It turns out that it's an Ella Fitzgerald song called, "Stone Cold Dead In The Market" and in its entirety, it's even more glorious that originally thought. This woman's husband goes out drinking, comes home and beats her and she takes a rolling pin to his abusive ass and kills him. And she says to his family, she says, she'd do it again and she don't care if she gets the electric chair for having done it. Hell, the husband even sings a verse after she kills him. Obviously, the subject matter isn't what's funny per se. It's more the happy tone they sing the entire song in. Like, "Yeah, he was abusive and I killed him for it but don't worry, be happy ya'll!". Tis the only song from the 40's that graces my iPod now. Thank you "L.A. Noire" for enriching my life in more ways than one.
Friday, October 24, 2014
Italian Roast
Me: Miss N asked me to teach her guitar and I'm stoked about it.
MOC: That'll be awesome. Daddy-daughter guitar lessons.
Gio: She's playing piano so beautifully. Why not wait on guitar? Do you want her to play Carnegie Hall someday, or do you want her to be some rock star?
[MOC and I look at each other and contemplate for about five seconds]
MOC & Me: Rock star!
MOC: She could be the next Stevie Nicks!
Me: Oh my god, that would be amazing. Yes, let's make her the next Stevie Nicks!
Gio: *Walks away whilst mumbling in Italian something that was probably disparaging to both of us*
Somehow that straight from Italy accent even makes insults sound classy.
Thursday, October 23, 2014
Wasted Away Again In Margaritaville
And now, to the portion of the program I enjoyed most, Crazy Aunt's antics. I mean...words escape me, ya'll. It all began with the auto-erotic asphyxiation discussion on the way home from the airport last weekend (as documented here, in all it's hilarity). Then, she said she was nervous and needed something to "take the edge off" and began dipping into the alky-hol at around 11AM on Saturday. Mind you, this was after having had a good amount of drinks the night before at the rehearsal dinner. The cousins and I went to breakfast and came home at around 3 to find her slurring her words and having some difficulties coping with all the gravity that surrounded her. We gave her some coffee to try and mellow her out since she had to direct some of the wedding festivities and make a speech later and that seemed to give her a second wind. The ceremony went without a hitch, and then it was time for her toast. ...The toast...what to say? She rambled on and on for a good ten minutes and included such gems as; "This is the first wedding I've been to where no one getting married had vaginas and I loved it.", "I wish one of my kids was gay but they're not because they don't love me", as well as inquiring whether any of the rest of us were gay "including those with vaginas" whilst shooting my 8 months pregnant, single cousin a knowing look. She capped all of that off by wondering if she should just be gay, given that her three marriages to men didn't work out. Eventually, she passed out in a lawn chair in the neighbor's backyard after having mingled incoherently with the other groom's family (who probably didn't find it as hilarious as the rest of us did, but who cares?).
Did Crazy Aunt's hilarity stop after the wedding? Oh hell no. The next day, despite drinking coffee from the late morning hours until we left for the game, she still seemed...well, durnk. Maybe all that liquor stored up in her body and was on some kind of time-release system, I don't know. Whatever the reason, she proceeded to tell me that she got married at 19 and was too young and cautioned me to wait until I'm "at least 28" to get married. I took the bait and told her 28 was just around the bend for me, and was greeted with, "OH! Mijo! We should take a trip when you turn 30!". She had some kinda enthusiasm in saying that and I didn't have the heart to say, "A) I'm 33, B) You're still drunk and C) You're so drunk that you haven't had alcohol in 10 hours and you're still slurring your words.". After that, she settled in and watched the game and swore off alcohol for "at least a few days". Crazy Aunt, almost a week later, is finally back to her old, slightly less crazy self. She mentioned to me that she never got to go to college and I told her that she pretty much got the whole college party experience over the weekend. That seemed to cheer her up. And thus, my work here is done.
Friday, October 17, 2014
The Vagina Monologue
I'd been home all of about twenty minutes and then this happened...
Crazy Aunt: Now, everybody has to take pictures at the wedding. There's gonna be Funsaver cameras on every table.
Cousin: What?? Why can't we just use our phones?
Crazy Aunt: No phones unless it's an emergency.
Me: Who the hell even still stocks Funsaver cameras?
Y: lol What if I urgently need to take a photo? Then can I use my phone?
Crazy Aunt: No! We are using the Funsavers!
Cousin: Can you even get that film developed anymore?
Groom 1: Who develops film? You didn't tell us about these cameras.
Crazy Aunt: Stop complaining or I'll start telling you all about the horror of menopause.
Y: What horrors? You don't get your monthly pain anymore, consider yourself lucky!
Me: Gee, I can't wait to attend your 1990's style wedding this weekend.
Groom 2: LOL. Yeah...me neither. I knew I shouldn't have let her plan it.
Crazy Aunt: I think the worst thing about the menopause was the vaginal dryness.
Me: LMAO! Ewwwwww.
Y: LOL. Yuck. My ears, MY EAAAAAARS!
Groom 1: That is disgusting. Just stop.
Crazy Aunt: I'm sorry, mijo. I forgot there were people in the car who don't like vaginas.
Me: LOL. Good god, Miss N cover your ears.
Crazy Aunt: Why does she have to cover her ears? She likes vaginas.
Y: LMAO! Jesus...
Me: Oh my god...
Crazy Aunt: By the way, have you ever slept with a woman, [Groom 1]?
Groom 2: [Crazy Aunt!]
Crazy Aunt: Well, I don't know if he has. I know you have. How does he know if he's gay if he's never tried everything in the buffet line, you know?
Me: LOL. This is glorious.
Groom 1: Um...no, I haven't. And I'm sure I'm gay lol.
Groom 2: Let's just sit in silence the rest of the ride, okay? lol
Me: Hey man, welcome to the family.
Groom 1: lol Yeah I'm starting to rethink joining up.
Me: lol It's understandable. I don't know why anyone gets joined in holy matrimony to this mess once they've spent the holidays with us.
Wednesday, October 15, 2014
"The Whiteness Project"
Friday, October 10, 2014
Dentures And Dangerous Sexual Adventures
Me: I don't know. I was like 8.
Cousin: How does one suffocate during sex?
Crazy Aunt: It's that auto hypnotic association.
Me: LMAO.
Cousin: I think she means auto-erotic asphyxiation
Crazy Aunt: Yes, that's what it's called, right Giuseppe?
Cousin: LOL
Me: ...Why are you asking me??
Crazy Aunt: Calm down, mijo. I just hear you're very sexually experimental, that's all.
Cousin: LMAO. Yeah, chill out son!
Me: You "hear" this how??
Cousin-in-law: Maybe a couple of your sexy lady friends are in her shuffleboard group.
G: LMAO! You know what they say, loose dentures can't help but blab about sexual adventures.
Me: LMAO. I'm flipping you both off soooooooooo hard right now.
Crazy Aunt: lol Hey, I don't play shuffleboard! Just be careful if any of you do that! It can be very dangerous.
Thursday, October 9, 2014
W-A-R
The guy next to us at the concert was supposed to be there with his daughter, but she had to back out the day before because of a business trip and he couldn't find anyone else to go, so he sold the second ticket and went by himself. (There were a lot of other parent/grown child combos there, which was awesome). He struck up a conversation with us before the show, during which my mom wanted to know how old his daughter was and if she was single, and he assumed Y and I were both mom's biological kids and also assumed that Y was older than me and that I was about ten years younger than I actually am (all of these assumptions based on sight). This infuriated Y, to the point where even a day later I was dealing with comments like...
Me: Well, I thought he was a nice guy.
Y: You would. "Oh, you think I'm only 24? You wanna have some sex?"
Me: LOL. I did not proposition him, ma'am. You're just bitter because he thinks you're an old cat lady.
Y: LOL Fuck you. I'm engaged and I have a child! Nobody wants to marry you!
Me: I'm gonna marry that dude's daughter before the holidays just to spite you.
Y: lol See, now I believe you'd marry out of spite.
The debate between us continued to rage into today when she decided to fire shots in the form of a VERY old picture of me in which I have, shall we say, questionable facial hair. It's war now, yo. WAR!
Wednesday, October 8, 2014
Lazy Dayz
Me: Bitich slap is when I slap you so hard that you stutter whilst going down to the floor
Friend: LMAO! Like smacking a record player
Me: LOL Precisely
Me: Sometimes typos is good
Friend: Ho yeah. Having them work out in your favor is a talent
Me: lol I haven't even had coffee yet and I came up with that stutter biz
Friend: I'm is impressed
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Friend: I just ate, and my stomach still feels hungry
Me: I haven't eaten yet
Me: Or still had coffee
Me: It's not enough that the Keurig makes one cup of coffee exactly how I want it anymore, I need it to physically come to wherever I am too.
Friend: LOL I have the same damn problem. I'm staring at it like I can use the Force to make coffee with it.
Me: LOL Right? Bend to my will, damn you!
Tuesday, October 7, 2014
The Ladies, Man
"Tres excited for the Mac Attack tonight with my favorite lady!"
And then my phone blew up with the following conversations (and a special shout out to Google Hangouts for allowing e'eryone to see when I'm online, which is always since I have a smartphone #DamnItAll).
Y: Ahem, I thought I was your favorite lady?
Me: You're one of my favorite girls.
Y: Excuse you, I am not a girl.
Me: lol And not yet a lady. But give it some time whislt you're in between.
Y: LOL. How you attract women when you can quote Britney Spears is beyond me.
Me: lol You're still here, aren't you?
Y: So true.
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Sister: Hey! I saw your tweet. I don't get any love?
Me: You know I love you, and you're one of my favorites, but Mom is considered a lady. And you is not.
Sister: LOL. Yeah, Mom - who has made two racially insensitive jokes in the last three days - is a lady. Okay.
Me: LOL. That's how I like my ladies - smart, funny, and occasionally wildly inappropriate.
Sister: lol Ain't that the damn truth.
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Youngin: I want to go on record as saying that I'm already suicidal about not being able to go to the show...you need not rub it in via social media. #Scoundrel
Me: LOL. Wtf calls someone a scoundrel anymore?
Youngin: Ladies. Suicidal ladies, that's who!
Me: Well hold off on the suicide until the show is over.
Youngin: lol Your concern is overwhelming.
Monday, October 6, 2014
The Labor Act
MOC: You know...I asked you to do this because you're the most handy of all my friends...but maybe I overestimated that.
Me: lol Please, you asked me because Gio is out of town and you wanted some free labor.
MOC: And speaking of labor, I endured it and had your child so I think you can build me some shelves without giving me attitude.
Me: You know, I came over to help because you were one of my nicer friends...but then I remembered that we're family and therefore we can't be nice to each other.
MOC: lol I have a feeling that will be the only nail you hit on the head during this shelf buildin'.
Sunday, October 5, 2014
Ghetto Love
G: Jesus, you really just can't help yourself, can you? Lol
Me: lol Shut up. Anyway, she turns around to say thanks and it's the neighbor chick from down the way that I almost dated that one time!
G: Oh damn! She was hot.
Me: Word. Apparently it's just her, no father involved. She's like eight months along already.
G: LOL. Here's a question - is that one yours too?
Me: LOL. Bitch
G: Giuseppe, you are...NOT the father.
Me: "I done told ya'll it ain't mine!" *flings chair in ager because he ghetto reputation is now shot to hell*
G: LMAO, ghetto reputation.